Not choosing is a choice. When you have to decide on two or more choices or variables, and you pass on making a decision, you have made a choice. Wouldn’t it make sense instead to allow yourself to be in control of the decision, rather than someone else? If you don’t make a decision, in many cases the choice is passed on to someone else. Since it is always better for you to be in control of your destiny rather than another, not making a decision is a bad decision.
Indecision also causes low self-esteem.
You begin to resent yourself, saying things like, “I couldn’t even make that small decision. It wasn’t some big, life-changing choice presented to me, yet I still couldn’t decide.” This mindset can make decisions in the future even more difficult to make. Besides, it does no good. It is a false representation of what actually happened.
Whether you make a good choice, a bad choice or no choice, you have decided. This is just a decision. It is not the end of the world. If you decide not to choose, and that turns out being incredibly beneficial to your life, don’t tell yourself you did the right thing. You are simply playing the lottery, hoping against hope that not choosing would somehow get the universe to deliver the best possible scenario.
Studies on Decision-Makers Show That Indecisiveness Leads to Stress
Stress causes inflammation, inflammation promotes chronic diseases and health problems, so you are healthier and happier when you take decisive action. Don’t entrust your future to others. Take control of your life and make a conscious decision to be more decisive. You are the best person to make decisions for your life.
If you are concerned you don’t have all the information needed to make the smart decision, understand that analysis paralysis is a real thing. Waiting for more information can paralyze your decision-making process, the same as having too much information to sort through. If you are rationalizing a reason for delaying a choice, your justifications are putting off the inevitable.
Sometimes it helps to talk to yourself in the second person. Think about the most confident you have ever been. Imagine yourself confident, with high self-esteem and a great self-image. Envision others looking up to you and respecting you as a person, and as a decision maker. Then simply say, “What would you do?” You are asking your most decisive, courageous, confident self what the decision should be.
Do this enough and you will find yourself becoming more decisive and sure about the decisions you make. Are you going to make some poor decisions in your life? Sure you are. We all do. Humans are imperfect. We make mistakes. Knowing this should make the decision process easier, not more difficult.
There is No Such Thing as a Bad Decision
A decision is a choice, nothing more. In times of war, generals and other military leaders have to decide the fate of the men and women in their charge. These are some of the most difficult decisions to make. However, because the outcome of those types of choices are so important, those leaders learn to make them objectively. They know if they let their emotions get in the way, they could do more harm than good.
Although people may become injured or lose their lives because of a decision a military leader makes, the decision itself is not bad.
If that leader ignored mounds of evidence which shows that some other decision was the correct one, then he should be held accountable. Even so, the decision itself is not bad. A decision is just a thing. It is choosing one thing over another. Since no one can look into the future and the effects of your decisions will not be known until you make a choice, how can you know if the decision you make will turn out positively, neutral, or negatively?
Look at Decisions in a Different Light
A lot of people are scared to make decisions because they believe that people will view them as failures if their choice delivers negative results. They are afraid that one bad decision will haunt them their entire life. This leads to incredible indecisiveness, and an inability to see a clear-cut decision when it is staring them in the face.
Start looking at the decisions in your life as two different physical objects. View them objectively. See a choice you have to make as a physical thing, like a ball or a set of car keys. Attach no emotional importance to these objects. Now ask yourself this question, “Are either of the objects before me either good or bad?” Obviously, a key chain or a ball cannot be positive or negative.
They are just objects. You can play with the ball and have fun, and the car keys help you get to work so you can earn a living. You could also step on the ball and sprain your ankle, and you could get in an accident driving to work, which would not have happened if you couldn’t find your car keys.
Still, all of those things are the results of your personal interaction with those objects. Remember that there is no such thing as a bad decision. Decisions are just things, objects, choices to make. In many cases, you are going to have to decide on one choice or another. If you decide not to choose, you have made a decision, and not necessarily the best one.
The mental stress and frustration that can arise from being scared to make a “bad decision” is a waste of time, since there are no such thing as bad decisions. You don’t have a crystal ball. You don’t know if the decision you make is going to turn out good or bad, so in the present time, the choices you have to make are equally neutral in nature. Just choose.